By
Brandye Manigat
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Blog
Sex is an important part of life, and contributes to your well-being
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You may be asking yourself, “Where’d my sexy go?” Well, the most likely answer is that it is being stifled by life. There are too many tasks to be completed and not enough time in the day, right? Our day-to-day busyness hinders our ability to “check-in” with ourselves, and entertain our sexual thoughts, fleeting as they may sometimes be. But sex is an important part of life, and contributes to our general feelings of well-being!
Take Care of Yourself
Self-care is the first step to rediscovering your desire and libido. You have to give yourself permission to care for you. That means a few things. Regular exercise and adequate sleep is so important to your outlook on life, and is essential for you to even have the energy to THINK about sex instead of falling into bed night after night in exhaustion. For women, desire starts in the brain and what you think about is what you want and do. Giving yourself permission to take a breather, even if it’s for 5 minutes a day, can really increase your desire.
Deal with Relationship Issues
Sometimes you’re not interested in sex because you are angry with your partner, or have some unresolved resentments that don’t allow you to freely connect with your partner. It’s important that you resolve these issues with your partner so that you can have a healthy relationship. This may involve a professional counselor or spiritual leader, who can give an unbiased perspective to the situation.
Have Fun Outside of the Bedroom
Good feelings cultivated outside of the bedroom may stimulate more time in the bedroom. Spending time together doing something new may be enough to spark a flame. Some examples might be taking a cooking class together, exploring a new city, or exercising together. The activity itself doesn’t matter as long as it is new and exciting.
Get Your Sexy Back
Think about what makes you feel sexy, and do that! It can be as simple as playing a certain song or going to the salon for some pampering. If you want to be more elaborate you can schedule a boudoir photo shoot and surprise your partner with the pictures. Do whatever makes you feel good!
See Your Doctor
There are times when a low libido is due to a medical problem like thyroid disease or depression. It’s important to speak with your doctor so that you can be tested and treated.
