Ask Dr. Brandye: I’m Too Tired For Sex!
By Brandye Manigat | Ask the Dr
Q: My name is Sharon. I have been married 9 years to a wonderful man, and have 2 great, but active, boys. I work full-time, and also have my hands full after work with making dinner, helping the boys with homework, and getting the 2 little guys off to bed. By the time all that’s done, and my husband and I can spend some quality time together, I never want to have sex. Is there something wrong with me?
A: Hi Sharon. No, there is nothing wrong with you other than fatigue. And you are not alone. Many women are juggling many responsibilities both in and out of the home, and by the end of the day are really exhausted. I would suggest that you switch things up…literally! Talk with your partner about your feelings, and that you would like to try a little experiment. Try having sex first thing in the morning. You’ll want to wake up 15-30 minutes earlier depending on if you want a quickie or some serious lovemaking, and just do it! If you and your partner work near each other, sometimes scheduling a lunch “date” for sex can be a creative solution. You can do it at home, or up the excitement factor and get a hotel room!